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I was raped. Courage & Self Realisation. Are life’s challenges our most powerful opportunities?

Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uOpWsw1Hvl8

22 Years ago, I was raped by my long term partner.

I was young and this had seemed to come out of the blue. He became physically, mentally and emotionally abusive after this…he also had 4 affairs that I know of during the 9 years total we were together.

Looking back, I regret not going to the police. And I regret not telling anyone or talking to anyone about it. If anyone finds themselves in a similar situation, please don’t deal with it by hiding it. They are the one at fault; and no matter how twisted they are and how manipulative they are (and they usually are)…managing to make sure you feel ashamed for something they should feel ashamed of…no matter how difficult it is, trust me when I say, spending your life covering for an abusive relationship or hiding an assault from people, means the attacker continues to do damage to you psychologically, long after the event is over.

Considering courage in the context of a magickal philosophy made me want to make a video about how courage isn’t about not being scared…it’s about how you handle being scared. It’s about learning to trust yourself to cope with fear and have faith in your own potential abilities to turn it around. Maybe even use it to your advantage in some way.

In that way, I can look back and say 22 years ago something really bad happened to me…but ultimately, it increased my potential to overcome fear, pain, suffering…and on some level, life’s challenges are those things that create the most powerful opportunities for us to prove ourselves. My self confidence and self esteem might not be what they are today had some of these things not happened in my past. They did force me to step up to mark in a way that may not have happened any other way. Perhaps ultimately, they made me a better person; a stronger person. And perhaps ultimately, making this video might help others too. I hope so.

They say that what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger. I would encourage that. Don’t let what doesn’t kill you make you angry, vengeful, bitter or afraid. In the strangest way, we have no control over what happens to us, but we have control over how we deal with it. See yourself as an empowered person and challenges can turn to opportunities.

Of course it’s not a simple thing; it took a lot of hard work. But do you really want to let the abusers, bullies, rapists of the world win you over to their way of seeing yourself as a victim?

PLEASE DON’T!

In considering an example it was the only situation I could think of where I was actually scared for my life…and it took me a long time to find the courage to end the relationship. I’m not proud of that. And I’m sure I’m not the only one. But anyone who has been in an abusive relationship or subject to a sexual assault…remember one thing – they are actually BREAKING THE LAW – it’s not a moral issue, it’s nothing to do with what you were wearing either. And there is a legal system that sometimes fails…but sometimes works. That is the system that rapists should face so you don’t have to allow their actions define you later. Again, this isn’t an easy thing at all. But my experience is…don’t harbor criminals.

I feel very strongly about it. It is perhaps my biggest regret not calling the police when it happened…because living with the secret was like dealing with something that happened to me (not something I did), over and over again. And it took a lot to move forward. I think it always would have – but I think I would have felt better about myself, the situation, the world, if I hadn’t kept the secrets of someone like that.

So I really intensely want to tell other victims of assault within or outside of relationships…PLEASE don’t suffer alone.

If you don’t know where to begin and seeing the police seems too difficult, tell a friend and have them phone the police. See your GP as an emergency and have them phone the police. Do whatever you can do. But don’t keep it to yourself.

Do anything you can to avoid falling into despair. Study psychotherapy…see a therapist…a counsellor…whatever help you can find, find it.

I feel like, worse than the event itself for me, were the 4 years of not even thinking to myself in words what kind of relationship I was in. I didn’t even tell myself. Let alone anyone else. That was a lot to deal with. It had a lot of consequences that dealing with it a different way wouldn’t have had.

Also remember…22 years later, things will look very different. I hadn’t lived 22 years when it actually happened…but looking back, I am a very different person now. It’s impossible to say what might ever happen to you in life…but I know for absolute certain, I would have been waiting at the police station door when it opened the next morning if it happened now.

We’re not defined by what other people do to us. Sometimes it feels like we are. But we’re not. And I dedicate my life to teaching courses that empower people (in various ways)…something I feel extremely inspired to do but something I couldn’t have imagined doing 22 years ago.

Time doesn’t heal…it’s what you do with the time that decides whether it heals…so if you can learn anything from my mistakes and my situation, please, please do. If I can make a difference to one person…save them the 4 year limbo…I’d donate a kidney to do it. So making this video, not my favourite subject, but the least I can do ❤

ALM (Mayastar)
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Mayastar offer a wide range of energy attunement based courses in natural healing modalities and systems of spiritual development.  Distance learning means the student is able to study at their own pace and in their own time – there are no time restrictions on any of the courses.

Another thing you may wish to consider when looking at other facilities is that  Mayastar Academy retains your student record (securely and indefinitely) so validation of your qualifications is easily available; this may be required for insurance purposes or to confirm your credentials with an employer, client or student in the future.

All Mayastar Academy courses include the following…

  • Accredited course materials sent to you in pdf format by email

  • “The Book of Inspiration Volumes 1-5: Vibrational Medicine, Spirituality & Lightwork” illustrated eBook by Rev. Anna May.  This detailed & inspirational Companion Guide Compendium is EXCLUSIVE to Mayastar Academy students. For details of the contents, please follow this link

  • Mayastar Information Pack.

  • The Mayastar Syllabus

  • “The Astonishing Power of Gratitude” (e-book)

  • Your lineage details

  • A range of accredited higher level qualifications you may work towards; from Diplomas to Degrees to an Accredited Doctorate in Energy Healing & Spiritual Development  

  • Eligibility to become a registered healer with the International Natural Healers Association. (If you choose to do this you can use the letters RH, INHA after your name)

  • Eligibility to become a registered metaphysician with WMA on completion of your course (if you choose to do this you can use the letters RM, WMA after your name)

  • Retention of your student record so that your achievement may be validated and confirmed in the future if required (for example, for insurance purposes or to verify a lineage)

  • Unlimited ongoing email support beyond the duration of your course

  • No time limits; you are encouraged to learn at your own pace and to enjoy the process!

All Mayastar Academy courses are fully accredited by the International Natural Healers Association and the World Metaphysical Association so you may be sure of the quality of your tuition and the comprehensiveness of the course materials provided.  Note – this is not a ‘bought’ accreditation but a verifiable attainment earned through assessment of my course materials and validation of my credentials.

As well as passing on knowledge and teaching new skills, Mayastar promotes a holistic view of healing on all levels and empowerment of the individual when it comes to learning, choice and pursuit of their spiritual path. For more information about the Mayastar philosophy, please visit the website.

All attunement courses confer the ability to attune others.  The only exceptions to these will have noted on the prerequisites that another attunement is required to receive this course or another is needed to pass on attunement to others.

So what might you expect when you enrol with Mayastar Academy?

I will cover the details of how a course or course package for any student will work from start to finish as an example to give you some idea of what to expect…

1. You select the course or courses you would like to take.  If you would to advice you can email me for this; tell me a little about what you would like to achieve with the work and I can help with recommendations.

However, if you have chosen the course or courses you would like and would like to take advantage of the course package discount, then email me with your order and I will send a paypal request to you to allow you to pay the reduced figure securely online by credit or debit card or by bank transfer.  Paypal uses military level encryption and the vendor never sees the card details of the payee making it exceptionally secure.

Discounts for course packages vary depending on the number of courses selected but begin at 20% for 3 courses and increase with the more courses you enrol on.

2. Once I have received your payment I will contact you within 24 hours with your course information.  This is sent to you in PDF format by email.  You will also receive information manuals that will inform and give context to the course content with information about attunements, metaphysics, energy healing, energy anatomy and much more.

3. If you have booked a number of courses with a lot of attunements, I will contact you to find out if you would like to arrange a schedule for your attunements so that they are set up for you each week (usually at the rate of 1-3 a week depending on your requirement and the types of energy that the attunements are for).  If you would like this option, I then work out a weekly schedule for you with the dates and times I will be setting up the attunements.  When each attunement is ready you will receive confirmation from me by email to tell you it is ready for you to call in at your convenience and where relevant, with an extended package, I would then send the manual/manuals that relate to the attunements for the following week.

4.  Energy attunements are set up using the Orb of Life/Chi Ball/Call In method.  This is a means of sending distant attunements and basically involves me creating an Orb of energy and programming it with the attunement and the relevant energy which I channel.  An ‘OOL’ doesn’t expire; they are programmed to be self sustaining – to both preserve and contain the energy of the attunement, until you activate them by calling them to you (instructions on how to do this will be given in the course information manuals – Part I of the Book of Inspiration tells you all about attunements!).  Universal energy is exactly what it says, Universal; time and distance do not apply when working with this energy which can feel odd to people used to working solely in linear time.  For that reason, for anyone who feels a little to unsure about using the OOL method, I offer the option of scheduled/fixed/real time attunements too.

You can find detailed information about energy attunements and how they work at www.mayastar.net/attunements.htm

5. If you choose to have a fixed time attunement there is an additional £20 fee per attunement for this because of the amount of additional time it ties up (not just the time for the attunement but when I am working to an appointed time it means all aspects of my life including meal times have to be ‘scheduled’ around the attunement!).  If you wish to take this option you would simply email me with the dates/times for the attunement that would be suitable for you over a 7 day period and I would check the diary to see what would fit in well and we can work out a mutually convenient time/date for the attunement.

6.  If a fixed appointment is missed, the attunement is missed because it is sent and received in real time.  In order to complete the course if this happens, you would need to make a payment of £40 total for re-attunement (this covers the administrative time, wasted time and time for the new appointment).

NOTE: These options have been introduced with the additional fees for monthly payments and scheduled appointments for attunements because they were not used often by students, but whenever they were they were proportionately very time consuming when it came to administration.  So in order to keep prices lower and allow discounts for packages that the majority of my students would benefit from, I decided to implement changes that reflected additional cost, only where an option caused additional work.

7. After your attunement I will prepare your Accredited Certificate of Achievement and email it to you in PDF format. Your certificate will have details of your ‘lineage’: A tradition with energy healing modalities dating back to Dr. Usui is that a record of the teachers who have passed down the line from the originator of the modality are detailed for you.

All my courses are fully accredited by the INHA (International Natural Healers Association) and WMA (World Metaphyscial Association) who accredit myself as a teacher and Mayastar Academy as a teaching facility.  This accreditation is earned through assessment of my work and verification of my credentials and not to be confused with other apparent ‘accreditations’ that people simply buy but do not validate the quality of their work in any way at all.

This is important to note as Mayastar Academy teaches students all over the world.  The online nature of courses and international recognition through accreditation mean that wherever you are in the world, you can study with Mayastar!

8. Beyond the duration of your course I am always just an email away if you have any enquiries related to your course or furthering your qualification.  I can be contacted at any time and there isn’t a limit on email support provided.

9. Once you complete a course, you may choose to ‘upgrade’ it to a higher qualification such as an Accredited Diploma or including it in a package towards an Advanced Accredited Diploma, Degree or even Doctorate; these options are always open and can be worked towards incrementally to allow them to be accessible to everyone!

10. You will receive a copy of the Information Pack and some information about the services I provide through Maya Magickal along with your course materials…as well as a free e-Book about the power of gratitude in manifestation work – an invaluable read!

The information pack answers many frequently asked questions and includes information about a number of different subjects that may be of assistance especially when learning about Mayastar and how things are put together with this kind of course.

You may use the link at the top of this page to request a copy of the information pack now; and also receive complimentary access to special offers open to newsletter subscribers which include special packages, spell offers and course discounts that are updated fortnightly.

Higher qualifications are also available through Mayastar and also are professionally, internationally accredited. From Advanced Diplomas to degrees and the Mayastar Doctorate, there are options available to suit students of any level.  With any large course package or when a student purchases a large course package like the doctorate, which includes 108 courses (the syllabus has over 200), attunement to all of these and the administration costs. For higher qualifications, a student supplies written work in addition to their attunement (see www.mayastar.net/diploma.htm) and each higher qualification is built up from Higher Diplomas so the student may either take these separately, or save a lot of money and buy the entire package…this saves over 50% on taking the courses individually.

Some are intimidated to know whether they will be able to complete the work.  So let me assure you…first of all, I always set up the student’s programme of study tailored to them after purchase and discussion about how much time they are able to dedicate each day to their work. This way study is moderated by me and this ensures it stays manageable for you!  And you are able to work around your life without disruption and include your studies, dedicating as much time as you wish.
The difference with the higher qualifications is that you submit written work.  This can be a concern to some but I have many students all around the world and it’s not as daunting a prospect in reality as it may seem before you start!  And I do have beginners in Energy Healing working towards Doctorates; there is absolutely no reason why not – whatever your experience.  If you feel inspired to take that option, as you complete the required work for the Accredited Mayastar Academy & Lux Aeterna Templum Universitas Natural Healing & Spiritual Development Doctorate (PhD) you will be learning as you go and developing new skills in different modalities.
Each higher qualifcation is made up of a number of Higher Diplomas – the Diploma category menus on the top right of the page show you which you can choose from and the courses on those individual course menus can be chosen to complete that module of your overall course.  Each modality in higher qualifications should be accompanied by a 500 word essay on that system and 3 case studies to demonstrate experience and understanding.  This sounds like a lot of work!  But as I said, all packages are tailored to the student’s requirement to facilitate the programme for each individual.
Students are encouraged to make and retain notes of their experiences during attunements, healing sessions and meditations, and as long as this is carried out, when it comes to submitting written work, you will find you have everything you need.  So although initially the concept may seem daunting, it is possible for students to decide how many hours they can realistically commit each day/week on a consistent basis and for me to work out their attunement programme allowing them time for the written work, meditation/healing practice and receiving their attunements as well as studying the course materials.
For most students a programme of 2-3 attunements each week works well – and means if you dedicate on average 1 hour a day, you will be able to complete any programme.  And it is flexible enough that you can work it around your life and commitments while you work towards your PhD.

I hope this has explained more about Mayastar for you.

You may also visit the website to find more information about me, the Mayastar Philosophy, courses available, how courses work, energy attunements and much more at http://www.mayastar.net
Namaste,
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