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ASMR General Upd8…family, harp, guitars…and whatever happened to my ex (Wolf)? Narcissistic Personality Disorder? (Answers on a postcard!)

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Today’s ASMR Whispering Witch Nocturnal Chat…a general catch up (in 4 parts).

A bit about my dad, his cancer and death, my harp (a little bit of singing)…and a general catch up on “Whatever Happened to my Fiancé?” (Answers on a postcard!)

The latter I have recorded several times. Posting up for the sake of continuity & so when I mention I have stuff to sort out…or refer to the mess that was left in 2014, you have an idea of what I am referring to. In a nutshell, Wolf ripped me off. He claims to be mentally ill. Though I have no way to validate that. My own psychology & psychotherapeutic studies would lead me to guess he has narcissistic personality disorder, is delusional and paranoid…perhaps has a serious mental illness. But that is only my personal point of view.

He is certainly a pathological liar, in my experience and by his own admission. As soon as he finished lying to me, he was lying to his family.

The video may give you clues…many red flags you would associate with NPD.

So tonight’s ASMR vlog is a general catch up…with some chat about how I was done up!

I haven’t had time to delete him from my personal FB historical pages & albums as yet. But he is ancient history to me and we certainly won’t remain in touch!

He left two years ago having lied to me for 14 months. Sometimes being aspie really helps you see the facts for what they are.

This only come up recently due to his attempt to contact me. I think perhaps he hoped some kind of reconciliation was possible. If he harboured any hope in that regard I can only say it was inappropriate in the circumstances at the least.

It’s easy to talk about it now, but his deception damn near derailed my life professionally and personally for a while. So I feel strongly about it right now and would definitely advise others to listen to their intuition. If you’re saving mobiles as evidence “just in case”, something is definitely wrong!

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Psychic Attack | Magickal Protection | Abuse & Manipulation | Karmic Reversal Spells | Narcissistic Personalities | Ego Projections & Negative Intentions

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The most requested spells and rituals I do for people are Reversal spells. By a long way this type of working (either as a preliminary preparation for other work or as a solution specific working), is what people need help with when they know that spiritually or psychically something is off…even if they’re not sure what it is.

Psychic attacks using black magick are extremely rare. But you need to consider what magick really is before understanding how it can help in other kinds of abuse where natural means don’t necessarily provide some levels of security.

Magick is defined as the art of causing change to occur in accordance with the will. So every act of will (conscious or unconscious) is an act of magick.

When we focus on an intention we begin to take actions and prepare ourselves for a desired situation or outcome to manifest and the Universe backs us up. When our higher will is engaged in seemingly mundane activities, we are reinforcing our intention with action and changes can occur more quickly because we are literally aligning ourselves with our goal.

This isn’t to do with good or evil…it’s more to do with aligning our actions and emotions with our thoughts and intentions. Magick is the way I do it but it does take training and commitment to learn. So I provide magickal services for others as part of my work. The opposite state would be a state of resistance, restriction and disparity. Anyone in that state would be a negative influence on others. Whether by their projected intentions (ego centred consciousness always looks outside for blame or cause), cruel actions, verbal abusive, emotional abuse or physical abuse.

With the outward projection of the ego centred person’s intentions, they are not just capable of psychic attack (abuse on a spiritual level), but they don’t have the self awareness nor the impulse control to prevent it.

This type of psychic attack is extremely common and often the victim questions the reality of it or tries to reason it away by thinking maybe if they were more professional, less sensitive, more confident…(etc)…they would feel differently. It can feel like an act of personal defeat to admit that we are being affected by someone spiritually. It means acknowledging a level of violation we haven’t acknowledged before. It can make a person feel powerless, paranoid and defeated. All of the things that can leave us more vulnerable to this kind of abuse.

Sometimes lifestyle or self esteem issues can mean we become attractive to people who are narcissistic. Times of change or emotional turmoil (a bereavement, change in job or house move), can leave us more vulnerable to the proffered “shoulder to cry on” and also mean we’re in a mental state where apparent encouragement and reassurances are taken “to heart” in ways we might not usually.

Narcissists often display extremely intense acts of apparent kindness, love or attention that a vulnerable person may be drawn to. It’s a phenomenon called “love bombing” and it’s actually a method of manipulation and control. It keeps the victim assured any misgivings they have are rooted in their own issues…not able to pinpoint exactly what feels “off”.

Once an element of control is established, the narcissistic personality requires validation and attention and conformity of the “victim”. The transition can be so subtle that unless you’re looking for it, you don’t notice it.

It’s perhaps worse when the narcissistic personality shows up in a scenario where acknowledging the problem is even more difficult – a work colleague, a client, a family member for example. Narcissists are always parasitic in nature and we may feel it on a spiritual level (intuitively), even while we believe that all is well on other levels.

A narcissist will tend to claim to have the best or worst of everything…childhood, health, luck etc. Their “story” will be compelling. They will usually describe themselves as a victim in some way. Their story may seem too good to be true or too bad to be true. But they lie as easily as they tell the truth and they’re generally pretty plausible. At first.

So the abuse begins right off the bat…manipulation is abuse. So whether they use lies or half truths to convince you of their story (often tailored to the victim by getting allowing you to talk enough about yourself they can tell you exactly what you want to hear). This is second nature to them. They learn to fake empathy by emulating others so they tend to get worse in the sense of being more manipulative or controlling over time. But better at doing it discreetly and fooling others.

Living a lie isn’t a consequence of their actions…for them it’s the method of getting what they need. They may project confidence and self assurance, but they are desparately needy. Craving external validation which they will pursue by any means necessary. It’s not a problem to them. They don’t have a conflicted need to balance their selfishness to assuage their conscience. They are very much stuck emotionally in the area of ego development – they may hide it well but inside it’s all turmoil, drama and obsession. And they feel entitled to have whatever they want. They are often intelligent and have a charming way about them, but scratch the surface and there is a sense of entitlement that trumps everyone else. They don’t have friends so much as pawns.

They are only interested in your interest in them…and how much of that they can acquire. Feeding their ego is like an addiction and they may be addicts for similar reasons. That’s not unusual but it is usually something you find out later.

One good way to assess whether someome is potentially a narcissist, is by repeating their story as they provide it so they are compelled to repeat it. Some may feel more confident because you’re showing an interest. Then deliberately misunderstand something with a statement “but you said you weren’t interested in….” – questionning them usually gives a glimpse of their true nature and anything they can perceive as criticism they will perceive as criticism. It’s likely they will expose a chink in their armour if you do this.

Other ways to do it is to pretend a third party would be critical of them rather than you. And see how they react. Criticism is never well received. At the very least they will seem “strangely” defensive or dismissive. If they think you are on their side and a third party isn’t you may get an insight into their attitude to people who might criticise them. Whether it’s their lifestyle, their past, the colour of their socks…the criticism test is revealing!

Another exposition method is easier later (the more involved you are with them, the more of a minefield their intolerance becomes) offering deliberate compliments and seeing how they react. They may go into an elaborate self effacement speech. They may take on a glow at the “win”.

In fact…look out for their tendency to offer speeches. It’s a tendency to prevent you interrupting. Which belies a tendency to decide what you can say and when.

If you’re dating one…this tendency is one of the weird things you may or may notice. If they think you are about to speak your own mind (rather than theirs), they may react with a kiss. One that ends the conversation. Even if you get the vibe something is up, it’s hard to admit to yourself that a kiss might have been an action of control – to literally shut you up. That seems crazy. Because they are crazy. And unfortunately, not in a way that will change or can be helped by therapy.

The safest way to not be stung by a narcissist is to never get involved. Unfortunately they are drawn to similar traits and some people end up feeling they’re magnets for this type. Literally watch your body language – they will be. If you naturally are a quiet person with a naturally shy or understated demeanour, they may assess at first sight that you’re possibly introverted, passive and insecure. An “easy mark”.

Not all narcissists present all the same red flags. But because their consciousness is so ego centred, they have similarities. And without fail are a negative and destructive influence with a potential for abusive behaviour that’s guaranteed.

There are so many variables in any situation. Any relationship or connection. And the Karmic bond formed with people we mix with, that magick can’t just erase the symptoms; it’s a case of removing the connection to prevent the problem recurring. In long term relationships this may take time because the narcissist will harbour hope they can change your mind and is unlikely to take no for an answer.

So, reversal spells work from the inside out; magick is a process of “reweaving” that makes it less likely the problem will return. A narcissist is waging their own personal psychic war because they project their intentions so fluently (like a kind of psychic incontinence similar). But the reweaving on a psychic level creates an environment that means they will tend to stop considering you a prospect. If it takes a few reversals, it’s because over a period of time their intention may undermine yours. But magick can be greatly empowering in protecting you and preventing their projected need. Which may be to keep you in their life as an enemy if they can’t keep you in it as a friend. It’s most important if using magick to resolve this kind of attack, you don’t allow them a foothold in your actions (no matter how they try to achieve that), because responding to them increases their influence on you and would restrict a successful disconnection to prevent continued harm or disharmony to manifest as part of their “campaign”.

So if you find yourself a victim, don’t become disheartened! Whatever practical steps you take can be supported with magick. It gives you a choice and empowers you to deal with the situation.

So you can see, the idea that someone’s doing black magick and attacking you is nonsensical! Trying to use magick in this way would be against the natural current; it would be like making water flow up hill!

But psychic attack is a common problem. It doesn’t involve someone performing black magick rituals or sticking pins in a voodoo doll or anything so elaborate. It can deliberate but also sometimes unconscious. And the more ego centred the perpetrator is, the more important it is to disconnect fully.

A Karmic Reversal spell is a safe and effective way of preventing the hindering influence of another or others from causing you any harm or restriction on an energetic level. It works from the subject out and simply put it dissolves any negative karmic bonds – reverses negative intentions, speeding up the karma if necessary for full resolution or simply dissolving negative connections if that’s more effective.

It’s really a way to bring harmony to your situation instead of deflecting or ignoring it. In many senses you can consider this kind of magick a healing process; healing by dissolving negativd energetic connections and allowing you to move forward.

You can find more information on how magick works on my website www.mayamagickal.net

Xxx

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Today’s face of thunder #nomakeupselfie…

When u find out you been played…and realise sometimes #magick is the only way to break a negative karmic bond with someone who doesn’t have #selfawareness or #principles.

“You can’t reason with the unreasonable.”

But you def don’t want them messing with your energy and skewing your balance.

So tonight, my #pms combined with the #fullmoon and influences of Jupiter, I think working #Nataraj Dance of Destruction Reversal Ritual (focused on invoking justice – it’s a good #spell for tweaking in that way), would be the best fit! Plus I have a new choreographed version for tweaking the Nataraj Working for Justice and not a simple reversal as the two are so often requested together. So, tonight will be the first casting of the new one…a bit exciting to see how it will work. If it doesn’t “flow” I think perhaps it would be a good choreographical addition to the #Valkyrie working.  But feel the reversal element is essential to a a Justice By Right spell. I may end up doing a new spell for this option ultimately so watch this space! Xx

Still spaces for any spells/rituals Friday, Saturday – http://www.mayamagickal.net

Sorry office admin side is a bit behind. All attunements etc up to date and certificates being processed  Today’s face of thunder #nomakeupselfie…

When u find out you been played…and realise sometimes #magick is the only way to break a negative karmic bond with someone who doesn’t have #selfawareness or #principles.

“You can’t reason with the unreasonable.”

But you def don’t want them messing with your energy and skewing your balance.

So tonight, my #pms combined with the #fullmoon and influences of Jupiter, I think working #Nataraj Dance of Destrover the next few days.

Xxx Be Whole!
Maya xx

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Psychic Attack | Abuse | Bullying | Energy Healing | Karmic Reversal | Protection Spells | Black Magick

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Bathtime Blogging with a Yoga Bath Bomb from Lush & sunset moodlights. Today’s blog…magick, psychic attack and protection.

The most requested spells and rituals I do for people are Reversal spells. By a long way this type of working (either as a preliminary preparation for other work or as a solution specific working), is what people need help with when they know that spiritually or psychically something is off…even if they’re not sure what it is.

Psychic attacks using black magick are extremely rare. But you need to consider what magick really is before understanding how it can help. Magick is defined as the art of causing change to occur in accordance with the will. So every act of will (conscious or unconscious) is an act of magick. When we focus on an intention we begin to take actions and prepare ourselves for a desired situation or outcome to manifest and the Universe backs us up. When our higher will is engaged in seemingly mundane activities, we are reinforcing our intention with action and changes can occur more quickly because we are literally aligning ourselves with our goal. This isn’t to do with good or evil…it’s more to do with aligning our actions and emotions with our thoughts and intentions. Magick is the way I do it but it does take training and commitment to learn. So I provide magickal services for others as part of my work.

Explaining how the will is aligned on all levels in order to create “magickal” change is a bit complex. There are so many variables in any situation that magick is a process of “reweaving”. But a simplified example might be, someone who wants to make more money. It would be kind of silly if they thought the way to do this was by gambling and using magick to give them better luck. They would really be sending the message by their actions that they want something for nothing. And that they won’t take an active role in achieving their goals. Whereas someone who genuinely aspired to improve their financial situation would look for jobs, do their accounts, perhaps study with a view to increasing their status in their existing job with the intention of earning money through promotion. The gambler may have success…but magick works with the individual and the gambler’s actions would be putting out the opposite message to his words: that he didn’t want change. This would mean any change that did manifest would be undermined by his own actions. And he may not even realise how his mindset was restricting him and ensuring he didn’t ever manifest the money he “thinks” he wants.

That’s important to remember. Magick always works. But it’s more effective, the results longer lasting and faster to manifest if the subject is serious about their goal and is aligned with the goal of their intention. Combining magick with practical action is clearly the most sensible approach. The biggest hindrance to spells…what may even undermine them…is the mindset of the subject of the spell. People say they want one thing but their actions reinforce the fact they want something else.

So you can see, the idea that someone’s doing black magick and attacking you is nonsensical – if there is no enemy within, no enemy without can exist! Trying to use magick in this way would be against the natural current; it would be like making water flow up hill!

But psychic attack is a common problem. It doesn’t involve someone performing black magick rituals or sticking pins in a voodoo doll or anything so elaborate. It can deliberate but also sometimes unconscious.

In previous blogs I have talked about Narcissistic Personality Disorders, Sociopathy, Psychopathy and Anti-Social Personalities. In common these traits mean a very ego centred motivation and sometimes a lack of self awareness. In common, these personality types have in common a tendency to blame external sources for their negative experiences. Some may be verbally abusive or physically abusive. Some will be pathological liars. Some will be very negative and draining. Others will be very intelligent manipulators. But in common they have a tendency to blame external circumstances or people for their any perceived problem. 

They carry grudges. They may actively “hate” and project negative intentions onto others. Or they may seem not to but you get a “vibe” from them. Such as the pathological martyr or saviour. They somehow can make any situation all about them without people noticing.

This is abusive behaviour – even if it can be unconscious. Though the effect of it in practical terms is undeniable and can be catastrophic. On a psychic level, it would considered no differently to using magick to manipulate another person against their will.  By mundane methods or negative intentions, people can perpetuate a psychic attack. They can be causing harm on a spiritual level and the victim often “feels” something is wrong but feels unable to identify the source and unable to resolve it. Magick can help to bring a proper solution to this kind of situation. As long as the subject of the spell genuinely wants this!

If someone is manipulating or abusing you, it’s often harder to perceive or accept when it’s not in an intimate relationship. In work situations or where a family member is causing the bad energy, it’s very easy for the “victim” to think it must be their own problem. That maybe they’re too sensitive. Maybe they’re not professional enough etc.

A Karmic Reversal spell is a safe and effective way of preventing the hindering influence of another or others from causing you any harm or restriction on an energetic level. It works from the subject out and simply put it dissolves any negative karmic bonds – reverses negative intentions, speeding up the karma if necessary for resolution or simply dissolving negative connections if that’s more effective. It isn’t fighting fire with fire. It’s really a way to bring resolution to the situation instead of deflecting or ignoring it. In many senses you can consider this kind of magick a healing kind – it’s healing an energy connection and allowing you to move forward.

You can find more information on how magick works on my website www.mayamagickal.net

Xxx

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Maya Magickal Spells | Justice By Right Spell | Variation of the Nataraj Dance of Destruction Reversal Ritual | Resolution of Psychic Attack, Physical, Mental, Emotional & Spiritual Abuse

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One of the spells I use least for clients is the Justice By Right Spell. There is a good reason for this! The most effective form of this spell is a Triple Working Intensive of the Nataraj Dance of Destruction Reversal Spell. In most situations where life is complicated by unknown elements, the Reversal is the best option. You don’t need to identify the cause for this spell to work.

Justice by Right is different in that it is used to invoke Universal Justice – speeding up karma. But if you are in denial about your role in the situation and you have brought problems on yourself by attitude or action, the Justice will by according to Universal Law…but not not necessarily according to your ego’s definition of it.

For that reason it’s important that you are 100% certain of the situation before you seek resolution using this spell. It won’t cause harm to another – you don’t get to choose how justice manifests. The point of the spell is for use when natural means have failed and the situation is not being resolved or simply can’t be. It is sometimes used in situations where administration problems are the problem rather than people. And there is only one circumstance where it is indicated if the source of the problem is another people or group of people; and that is where the deliberate actions of another person or group are taken to cause you harm (physical, mental, emotional or spiritual). If you are paranoid and you request this spell it could cause you problems. If you are a narcissist, it will back fire!

In personal situations where a family member,  partner or ex exhibits abusive behaviour (physical, mental, emotional or spiritual) to the point it’s affecting you on multiple levels and you can’t avoid them by natural means, it is a very useful spell.

Abusive personality types tend to continue negative campaigns and become fixated and that means the usual reversal/protection options may not be sufficient because their “attack” is deliberate and something they do habitually. If you are the latest casualty of an abuser, sadly it’s unlikely you will be the last. They don’t tend to learn from their mistakes. In most cases of narcissistic personality disordered people, even therapy makes them worse over time. So for anyone who finds themselves personally, professionally or romantically connected to someone of this type, the result is usually the same. Any significant time connected with one can leave victims feeling like victims and suffering symptoms of PTSD. So the situation is very serious.

This year I recommended the working to a client who was selling a house…her brother had caused ongoing problems and we had used reversals to try to counter it. But in the end it wasn’t enough. His motivation wasn’t to get his way – it was just to try to make sure she didn’t get hers. It had begun when they were children and it was escalating in a situation where it threatened to leave her out of pocket for court costs and with nowhere to live. While what his intention was became less and less obvious…until it was clear he only intended to make life difficult for her.

At the time I advised her:

“I think Justice By Right definitely would be the best and the fastest solution. It won’t harm him. If greed is his motivator it’s his own greed that will have harmed him.

I tend to recommend Justice By Right only when it comes to legal situations (by this point that was the way it was going) because most problems are complex and often we play a role in exacerbating them unconsciously because on a fundamental level we fear change. So a reversal works back from you to external links and can resolve/dissolve them and can even resolve or dissolve issues you have with yourself but only when you’re ready.

The trouble is, even when a psychic attack occurs it can be impossible to guess how or why…and most (originators of psychic attack) are unconscious of it. Not all abuses leave bruises. But I think from your situation your brother is essentially greedy and the “feel” of his energy like a gambler. I am not saying he is a narcissist but your descriptions and the general vibe make me think he tends that way and holds resentment towards you – the only times he has seemed to cooperate was when he was manipulating you into position as if you were a player in a game that only he was playing. I actually even suspect the problems you had with your previous accommodation may have been exacerbated by his “issue”.

I have one concern…what he is doing whether he realises it or not is black magick. Manipulation of another to serve his own ends. Between now and the court date, if things start going your way will he unconsciously/consciously ‘step up his game’ and cause more problems?”

As it was, we arranged a series of workings. The court case was dismissed. The brother continued to deny having any part in it but it came out due to his consistent harassment which was now recorded by the court! After the initial working he tried to contact her (before the court case) as if he didn’t know there was one. Something he hadn’t done for months which is why natural methods to resolve the situation weren’t possible.

However, after the spell intensive was completed, his harassment stopped and she was able to move on and sell the property. Which is what he had claimed to want but had prevented for months!

His actions were motivated primarily by a long standing jealousy. And it was difficult for her to admit to herself that he still held a grudge over childhood sibling rivalry, decades later, to the point he would do this to her and her children. It is hard for victims of abuse to admit it to themselves sometimes because it feels personal. They feel they must be mistaken. They must be paranoid. Or they are not sufficiently professional to deal with it.

Unfortunately that’s the biggest obstacle to dealing with the destructive tendencies of someone with NPD…they undermine their victim to the extent many victims think they are the problem. A narcissist makes sure people around them see you as the problem. They will lie in outrageous ways to set up a “campaign” against you.

I have been through it relatively recently…and the person behaved so much like a “text book narcissist” it was pretty shocking. Perhaps less damaging to me because I study in this area and was able to use my particular skills to resolve the mess they made. But it was only in retrospect some of their negative actions became clear. They made a lot of enemies. They didn’t have any friends. After leaving me, they first of all blamed me…then tried to contact me and blamed their mother for it…and later still blamed it on their “issues”. It’s a distinctive pattern. There wasn’t anyone they wouldn’t throw under the bus to claim to be a victim. That’s probably the most consistent and obvious red flag of a narcissist. If you see it, my advice would be to get out fast. Magick can help. It can help the situation and help you. But first of all you do need to admit to yourself what they are doing and that it’s not ok and you want it to stop.

Information on the Nataraj Working can be found at www.mayamagickal.net/nataraj.htm – and other workings can be used in combination with this or tailored to your situation. You can always email me through the site for advice on personalised packages/magickal intensives too.

With blessings
Maya x

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