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Why Gatsby Always Succeeds…& How You Can Ensure YOU Define Your Life (Before it Defines You)

Enjoying happiness, fulfillment  & success in all areas of your life? No exceptions. Achieving your dreams? Manifesting your goals every time without comprise?

It’s a tall order and I am inspired anew so regularly that I think I may write this blog in a number of parts! It’s a huge subject and considering different elements of the overall philosophy can hugely benefit people in truly living a meaningful life. Staying inspired is a big part of ultimate success.

As a witch and energy healing teacher I am often asked about subjects that boil down to be being related to what I am going to blog about so I have considered and studied widely in this area.  

I think it’s important to emphasise that to practice magick (real magick) and spellcrafting requires a commitment and dedication to the study and understanding of subjective, objective, internal and external factors involved in any  situation. Without that preliminary work, you couldn’t go on create spells at all – let alone ones that work.
An analogy might be – you want to knit a jumper. You know you need wool, needles and a pattern. You get these. A jumper doesn’t manifest itself after you bought them. If you don’t know how to knit or read the pattern you weren’t at a stage of being ready to achieve that. 

You are looking at the result as if the ingredients are magickal in and of themselves. When sometimes the most important thing is to enjoy the journey. Know there is work to do. And decide if you want it enough to put that in. If you don’t, you’re just deluding yourself about what you want.

Many people aspire to spiritual gifts but not everyone will be cut out for the one they think they want to choose. But if you are sure of your “destination”, the fact a jumper didn’t magickally create itself spurs you to learn! The idea of being able to make it inspires you. You don’t see any other way. Because it is what you really want. So you study to get yourself into a position where the yarn, needles and pattern are useful to you. This is not a hardship! It’s exciting. Fun. Part of the journey. 

Many people gather the ingredients…see this jumper doesn’t make itself. Think in a defeatist way that they have failed. Or externalise it and think he system has failed. “It won’t work. I give up.”

Well, if you choose to see challenges as failures you are doomed to create that reality for yourself!

If you say you have failed and give up I am sure you will manage to fail. It’s what you chose! In this sense we literally create out reality. The emotional blow, the financial cost, the physical stress – all come from your unshakeable assertion that somehow you were a victim. You decide in that way that you can’t change your future too…and so the problem compounds itself.

If instead of this you look at the bigger picture…imagine yourself making or wearing the jumper…imagine yourself knitting as you watch TV in the evening and can see how these are things will make you feel good. They are what you want. Your choice changes your “destination”. Your attitude is liable to be very different!  You see you have the ingredients! Excellent! Now you only need the knowhow and skill…you can get them! Fantastic. You take a class, join a club. You practice! You make some scarves and blankets and learn different stitches so you have experience and skill to go with your intention and goal.

It may take time. Maybe years. It will require dedication and practice  to prepare for it, begin it and complete it. But if you choose that destination, you WILL undoubtedly realise it. One day you will be in a position to knit that jumper. You know it. You believe it. You don’t even consider failure as an option! You create your reality.

You may use other techniques to support your efforts. Visualisation. Affirmations about yourself to increase focus and self belief. Or magick to resolve your habit of negativity and self sabotage that’s been hindering you in the past. 

But even through learning these new supportive techniques you will be acquiring tools and developing a state of mind that is resilient and increases your possibilities of success in all areas if your life. 

It’s amazing what a difference to the realisation of your intentions such steps create.

In this Gatsby is a most compelling and inspirational character. He understands the work he needs to do to achieve his goal and sets about it immediately. He lets go of his past or any resistance caused by it in one moment. He becomes unshakeable in his destiny and devotes himself to creating a situation in which he can realise it.

This means he isn’t just Gatsby but truly the Great Gatsby at that point.

You may think the story is a cautionary tale of a narcissist who is so self centred he creates his own world in which he can be who he thinks he should be. Except his motivation for this is love. And all the external superficial storytelling and “self promotion” doesn’t corrupt him. He doesn’t change his personality or motivation. He isn’t swayed by the fact he can have what other people want because his focus remains always on fulfilling his destiny and achieving what he wants. 

That’s what makes him Great.

A lesser person would lose that perspective at some stage. A lesser person would give up. A lesser person would become corrupted and allow the world to define them and thereby lose their integrity. This doesn’t happen to Gatsby!

You may think Gatsby is wrong when he believes he can turn back time if you take it as a literal assertion. I see it differently and believe his is absolutely right! If you consider he believes he can change what happens by choosing the course his life will take than if he hadn’t made that choice and given it his all he is asserting his destiny to fail was false and that he knew that he wouldn’t choose it. He would make the decision. He would never waver.

The film (The Great Gatsby) is so inspiring to me that I listen to soundtrack sometimes to remind me of the positive and (in my opinion) accurate belief that life is what you make it. And only you can choose what you make it.

I even picture Leonardo DiCaprio as Gatsby saying “of course you can” whenever his power to achieve his goals is questioned.

I highly recommend the film! And the book. But even if you’re not into that, I recommend the sentiment…

…define your life…and it will never define you. You cannot lose. You cannot be a victim. You cannot fail. Unless you choose to.

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Lush Bath | Mood Lighting | Magick | Ritual | Karma | Epilepsy | Aspergirl | TeddyBoy | Feeling Blessed

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Mood lighting egg set to mirror the colour of my #Lush #BathBomb! Having a long soak. Hair washed with #Rehab & #AmericanCream. 

#TeddyBoy coming round for a #vegan dinner of #couscous, grilled veggies & #salsa. One #spell to complete later & the Killing Moon #Karmic Reversal b4 bed (www.mayamagickal.net). And newsletter to send 4 www.mayastar.net too. So I will chillin’ till about 1am & then do my work. The #Tantric #Shamanic #Ritual were choreographed more than written. Most include #mantras & sometimes the #mantra part is adapted for a specific client’s goal. But the longer I work with them, the more the dance flows. Originally I had looped percussion/drumming cd I used but now the feel of the dance has become so much second nature that I feel it without any background sound. It’s really magickal. I was reflecting today that because I am a dancer and because of my epilepsy (meaning I don’t use the usual basic methods for #firemagic or #candlemagic), I have developed a way of working that uses my unique qualities to a more powerful effect than if I had followed the “painting by numbers” approach to #spellcrafting. It’s allowed me to be more eclectic in some ways but it’s also meant I couldn’t just learn to read by rote…so my feel for #magick (and #energyhealing) has been heightened by it. It’s a good example of how an apparent #disability may turn out to be an extra ability if you don’t get hung up on being different! I think my #autism (#aspergers) means I don’t get hung up by nature. It’s definitely a blessing when it comes to magick to be able to observe and unravel the mess of #karma that magick (used properly!) can tweak and resolve. I seem to get more and more referrals from happy customers for magickal work over time which is always good as far as feedback goes!

Feeling very blessed ♡ ♡ ♡

Xxx AnnaLouiseMay (Maya)

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Reflections in an Epic Bath | Loved Up | Macchiato | Teddy Boy | Cupid | Cancer | & Happiness

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#lushcosmetics #butterball bath w/ led mood lighting & loud music. #SongOfTheDay #LanaDelRey #IcanFly fr #BigEyes OST. #lyricsoftheday 

“I had a dream that I was fine
I wasn’t crazy, I was divine”

Newsletter to send tonight 4 www.mayamagickal.net & www.mayastar.net special offers (www.mayastar.net/special.htm). The Maha #Kali #Tantric #Shamanic #Exorcism #spell is v popular & the #Avalonian Alignment #EnergyHealing & #Meditation Attunement course ♡

#TeddyBoy due for dinner but I’m going to get an early one as my sis over 2mw for a #vegan #Starbucks breakfast/lunch. So wowed by #soy #macchiato that I wonder why I didn’t go vegan earlier!

Spider (my #TeddyBoy) is the sweetest – paying for my lunch! He has old fashioned values and some people might find that a bit objectionable b/c political correctness def not his strong suit! But he is the most hard working, kindest & most considerate bf I’ve ever had. And I’m being objective when I say that. He really is. And far from being objectionable, I find it refreshing to be w/ someone like him. Gorgeous admittedly and build like a bouncer! But always encouraging me in my work and helping me in practical ways as well as being a romantic.

I met him through my dad really…I think my dad was playing matchmaker right up to the end (dad died last year of a brain tumour). It’s the strangest thing to think on last year…dad was dying but we had the greatest fun jamming in the garden and me doing my fave #carnival and #hiphop fusion in the garden. And Spider lives two doors down and would watch me dance and chat w/ me and dad. He always has my back and was really supportive through everything. And I fell for him but was always a bit worried it was circumstances that had thrown us together and it might not last. I was v honest a about that b/c I would hate to hurt him. But we spent Christmas together…and now it’s nearly valentine’s day and we’re still both deeply smitten!

So thinking of last year…losing dad was terrible…but me & Spider…I’ve never been so happy!

So shout out to dad! I don’t know if he made an angel when he arrived the other side, but he was a fantastic #cupid right up to the end! Massive love 🙂

Personal Upd8 | Decorating | Elvis | Lucky Stars | Silver Linings | In the Pink ♡

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Ok…Elvis is playing dirty in the paint wars! I was doing some admin and he’s painting the office…I do the decent thing and go give him a hug and he blobs my nose! Game on! Gonna plan my own sneak attack 🙂

But do check it out. This pink dries darker than it is on my nose (does that count as body art?) – so it’s kind of a fuschia – really brings out the green in my eyes! Lol ♡

Gotta say, never have had a boyfriend who works as hard as I do…it’s refreshing. A man is as good as his word and my ex talked cr** – in fact, was a liar by his own admission (beggars belief I gave him the benefit of the doubt really. My bad). But credit where credit’s due. H did do one thing right – he left! And it may not have seemed it at the time buy that was an ocean of silver lining: I escaped being saddled with liability; got my mojo back; met my Teddy Boy…and if my ex hadn’t left, my walls wouldn’t be fabulously pink now either!

They say God never closes a door without opening a window…I can totally vouch for that!

In the mood for counting my lucky stars tonight. I’ve got whole constellations going on here and it just keeps getting better.

I’m “in the pink” quite literally ♡

Xxx ALM (Maya) | www.annalouisemay.net | www.blog.mayastar.net | www.tumblr.annalouisemay.net | www.wordpress.annalouisemay.net | www.mayastar.net

Shout from the rooftops! I’m TOTALLY in love…with Elvis! I Sorry I just couldn’t keep it in!

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You know you’re onto a winner when you’re so in love you graffiti each other like teenagers…he brings you vegan salads home from Starbucks because you had no time to cook…he texts in the middle of the day to remind you he loves you…and you get butterflies when you think of him getting home from work. Smile and sing to Taylor Swift while you’re feeding the pets and missing him because he went home 5 minutes ago.

Seriously…I wasn’t expecting to fall in love. My last relationship was with someone who was unkind and kind of arrogant. He wasn’t liked by my friends or family as they felt him living with me while I worked and he painted toy soldiers…was kinda taking advantage. They didn’t know the extent of it. And at the time, neither did I. But the great thing about being an aspergirl is that once you realise someone’s taking you for a ride you move on quickly and the emotional baggage evaporates as it dawns on you…he was an emotional scammer…a liar…possibly a narcissist…and according to himself was jealous and resentful and angry.

Anyway. Takes more than that keep an aspergirl down! We’re uncompromising in that way!

This year was almost Shakespearean. It’s so unlikely. My dad became ill and died. Peacefully at home with us taking care of him. I spent the summer dancing in the garden to carnival and hip hop…and was much admired by my neighbour. A friend of my dad’s. Known commonly as Elvis. Elvis is the kindest and most genuine man I have ever met. He was with me and my family throughout. Friends with my friends. Drop dead gorgeous. And somehow it went from conversations over the balcony to excitedly planning our first Christmas together in a matter of months.

He treats me like a princess. We sometimes bicker about silly things. But we make up fast. We are both are self employed so work our hours around each other as much as poss so we have lots of time together.

He has nearly as many tattoos as me. Loves my corsets and red hair. Loves…some stuff you guys will just have to guess at. He’s a teddy boy. I dress in Victorian styles (mostly…but also some Harajuku & Lolita styles sometimes). We make a striking couple.

Spend nights day dreaming about owning a gypsy wagon and a carousel.

He comes home showered and always happy…he loves his work like I love mine. And we are both independently happy but happier together.

I felt the need to come out and make it official. We’ve been ‘going steady’…but now our considerations for our life together spread into years.

He notices everything I love and got me a Nemesis Now fairy and unicorn statue for my birthday, a Marc Jacobs perfume and a long Joe Browns hippie chick cardigan. Sooooo thoughtful.

We love listening to motown. We love music full stop. He notices when I henna my hair. He even likes the smell of henna. He looks after me. I help him out too of course…but the point of this blog is to try to cover everything I adore about my Elvis…without even mentioning his abs (swoon).

He is fit. V strong. Tall. Thin. Always polite and well turned out. Never judges. Always asks me about how something makes me feel as far as my aspergers goes…he genuinely cares.

I have known him through my dad for a number of years…he thought I was a teenager though. When he found out I was his age and I was the mysterious nocturnal hermit girl…the wooing began in earnest. And within a few days we were sneaking about to hook up…totally the worst kept secret in the neighbourhood, he was spotted leaving my home at five in the morning twice! 

He is amazing. I tell him that all the time. But now we’re making plans for Christmas I feel things are official enough for me to blog this and say…it’s official! We are in a long term relationship. We’re totally in love. And both deliriously happy.

Sorry if I sound like an extended advert for Clinton Cards…but it’s that good!

If Facebook had the option, our relationship status would be soulmates ❤

Happy happy days in boho heaven!

Anna Louise May (Maya) | Mystic, Muse & Artist | www.annalouisemay.net | www.blog.mayastar.net

PS. Sorry to anyone who found my ‘shout from the rooftops’ overly dramatic and sentimental. I hope you find someone like I did some day too.

“The greatest thing, you’ll ever learn, is just to love, and be loved in return”