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How Energy Healing & Reiki can be used to assist those who are terminally ill

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We tend to think of healing as a single level but relaxation, the reduction of stress, assistance in sleep and pain management can be helpful in those to are about to make the transition.

It also provides a powerful way to connect – and creates a relaxed environment in which to talk about things the dying person might feel unable to with others or in more clinical settings. That’s not to say it won’t be challenging! But it can be an opportunity to share love as a family that is unique to our regular experiences.

My dad died of cancer last year. An inoperable brain tumour; and being able to provide him with the benefits of Reiki and my counselling/psychoanalysis experience…and natural forms of treatment, was intensely beneficial for us both. Being able to offer support and guidance in a situation that seems otherwise may seem bleak is an opportunity to reclaim the sacred aspects of this unique time. An opportunity beneficial (potentially) to all involved.

Natural Healing techniques can help relieve symptoms; we may benefit from healing on a spiritual and emotional level. Knowing you’re terminally ill can make people depressed – it’s rather a monumental time and rather monumental news. And it’s not unusual to experience shock and the stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining), when we hear the word “terminal”. But the shock part passes and we have to find a way to live with death. Something our life experience rarely prepares us for; it can make people feel unable to discuss the nitty gritty too – how death happens biologically. What to expect. What is a death rattle? Why do people who are dying usually go into a coma?

We can find these things out. And understanding the physical process can be reassuring. But creating an environment in which people feel they can connect and share in what is a very intimate experience…that’s the part no one teaches us! And I believe Reiki and sharing energy healing can be an excellent starting point for opening up and sharing our experiences and ideas together.

Death is a natural part of our lives – but we do tend to think of it as something that happens in a clinical setting with drips and medical staff…and ends with an anonymous phone call from a random doctor at 3am. We’ve stopped seeing it as being part of the cycle of life – and started to see aging and mortality as negative and to be avoided at all costs!

We are very distanced from our mortality in the modern world and this is emphasised in many ways by modern medicine…and probably also the fact many of us aren’t religious these days; also there is a way that even in some religions death is considered an inappropriate topic for discussion – or it’s discussed only in coded terms. The afterlife being focused on rather than death itself and the biological process of death.

Something important is lost in this I feel. Think back 100 or 150 years, people were used to seeing death first hand from an early age. Their family members usually died at home and often with the same treatments as end of life care provided now…counsellors instead of priests – but with morphine to control symptoms of the final days and hours.

If we saw this in our homes from a young age, we would undoubtedly understand death in a very different way. And while we consider such close encounters with the dying potentially depressing (tragic, unbelievable, despair inspiring) when they happen in the real world today, they don’t have to be. This modern perspective is rather new and our past understanding of the process can teach us a lot.

Death can be seen as part of a natural transition. The physical death of the body here marking its rebirth into the next world. A sacred experience when we see it from this perspective and allow ourselves to overcome our fears and resistance and to see…it may be messy or strange to us…so is the birth of babies! But we don’t have a problem seeing that as sacred. Death comes to all and yet we can go through most of our lives trying to remain “uninvolved”. I feel this is not only to our detriment but also to the detriment of those who are dying. And one day, that will apply to each of us.

Don’t be depressed…you will die one day; you will live on many others!

My dad received home hospice care during his transition and it opened my eyes in many ways to the very personal experience the dying person has. And how modern attitudes can be isolating and prevent a natural transition being experienced in a natural way by everyone involved.

There are some great books (especially those by Felicity Warner) about Soul Midwifery. And the Pagan Book of Living and Dying by Starhawk that offer some practical and philosophical ideas that can draw people together if things are experienced openly and this final journey considered something we take together and acknowledge for the sacred time it is.

I’m all for using Reiki as a complimentary therapy to assist in achieving a good/peaceful passing.

As I said, not all healing takes place on a physical level. The mental, spiritual and emotional benefits can be incredibly powerful for anyone involved – the person who is dying, the family and friends – Energy Healing can provide a way to share in the journey that can be powerfully healing for everyone.

XX ALM (Mayastar)

Happy Father’s Day Poppa (In Loving Memory)

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My dad died at 67, in September last year. He had an inoperable #BrainTumour. He responded well to chemo…the tumour was fast growing and so from diagnosis to goodbye (for now), wasn’t very long.

He was loved to bits by everyone ♡ His memory lives on in those whose actions are inspired by his love and his often cited “be nice to each other”!

Happy Father’s Day Poppa….miss you millions. And, I stand by my assertion that love is a forever deal and keeps people together through aeons. It wouldn’t be love if it didn’t eh?

I love you dad ♡

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Poppa chose this song for his funeral…

“There are places I remember
All my life though some have changed
Some forever not for better
Some have gone and some remain
All these places have their moments
With lovers and friends I still can recall
Some are dead and some are living
In my life I’ve loved them all (#Beatles)
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I chose this one for him in life and still…

https://youtu.be/utF4-JJiRdc

“…Daddy’s smart
And you’re the prettiest lady in the whole wide world

Now I know why all the trees change in the fall
I know you were on my side
Even when I was wrong
And I love you for giving me your eyes
Staying back and watching me shine

And I didn’t know if you knew
So I’m taking this chance to say
That I had the best day
With you today”
(#taylorswift)
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The @poppaofpeace #PassITOn page is dedicated to my dad. Thank you to those following POPPIO on his social networks – you can find him on Tumblr, Twitter, FB & IG.

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Apple Cider Vinegar | I swear by it | And for centuries it’s had a magickal reputation…one I believe it ABSOLUTELY deserves!

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For decades I have been drinking Apple Cider Vinegar daily. In my own mind I think of it as being good for the skin, a good alternative to caffeinated beverages. I also believe it’s beneficial because it has an alkalising effect on the body prevents me getting colds! Do I have proof? Not at all. There are publications about the benefits of ACV and of alkalising. But much of the miraculous benefits is based on anecdotal and personal (subjective) experience. Maybe it’s the world’s best placebo? But in a world where drug companies licence drugs that were out performed by sugar pills, perhaps we shouldn’t be so quick to write off the benefits of a placebo either!

The dangers of the acidifying effects of the Western Diet are well proven. NutritionFacts.Org is a great place to start if you’re a sceptic in this regard. No supplement will out save you from the damage eating a Western diet does! I recommend the annual lectures NutritionFacts.Org put on their YouTube channel each year too.

But back to ACV…for centuries, vinegar has been used for cleaning, disinfecting and in compresses to relief congestion or reduce inflammation. How much of this is folklore and how much based in science is massively hard to determine. Mostly because any scientific evidence is only partially useful (such as conclusions derived from animal tests not human ones). That means much of the science is dismissed as theoretical. And also means sometimes anecdotal evidence seems to trump the actual scientific research because it’s at least based on human experience!

But despite this…I still swear by it! And since it tastes good and doesn’t have negative side effects, I would continue to drink it even it didn’t have benefits!

Apple Cider Vinegar is not like “normal’ vinegar. It smells of vinegar but mix it with water and it tastes like apple juice. Many people swear by honey and lemon…which sounds more paletable than Vinegar I’m sure. But ACV doesn’t taste like vinegar! I particularly like Bragg’s Apple Cider Vinegar – which you can now find easily at Amazon or your local health food store – which famously includes the “mother” (explained later). And grade B maple syrup is a nice addition if you have a sweet tooth.

As a folk remedy, it has been claimed to help with numerous health problems.

These includes weight loss, lowering blood sugar levels, reduction of symptoms in inflammatory conditions such arthritis. The prevention colds and diseases. Clearer skin and shinier hair. Prevention of food poisoning. Even sometimes suggested as useful to prevent nausea in pregnancy and to cure stomach ulcers! That it can cure and prevent cancer. It can prevent flatulence. It can prevent headaches. There seems no end to the claims for that magick of ACV if you do a quick google search! It’s not new. But it’s currently very much in vogue as alternative and complimentary medicines and supplements go!

I did a little digging and found some interesting properties of Apple Cider Vinegar and associated health benefits that have been scientifically tested (to a point) and verified…things that may go some way to support at least some of the anecdotal claims.

The following health benefits of ACV ARE supported by scientific research. Research that is not extensive or comprehensive enough to make recommendations of dosages or anything. But even so, they are very compelling!

1. ACV is high in acetic acid; this has significant biological properties.

ACV is made by two processes. The first combines crushed apples with yeast. That step causes the sugar to ferment and turns the mixture into Cider – where the sugar has become alcohol. Then the addiction of bacteria enables the fermentation process to continue until the alcohol changes to acetic acid. Acetic acid is found in all vinegars and it is made the same way essentially. But here I am just talking about about ACV.

Organic, unfiltered ACV (like Bragg’s) also contains “The Mother” – this is comprised of proteins, enzymes and bacteria (good bacteria) that make the product look opaque or cloudy.

This is important because some believe that it is the “mother” that’s responsible for most of the benefits – but there’s no scientific proof of that. However there is scientic proof of the benefits of acetic acid.

There are not many vitamins or minerals in ACV but it does contain potassium (good for your bones which aren’t only comprised of calcium!) – and potassium is an important mineral in keeping your heart beat regular. That’s why you find it isotonic drinks. There’s more to optimal hydration than pure water!

Even slight dehydration can make a person feel unwell and cause all kinds of problems in the long term.

2. Acetic Acid has powerful antibacterial effects.

So although it has traditionally been used for disinfecting. It has also been used to treat fungal infections (stinky feet!), lice, warts and ear infections. Gargling with ACV and water may genuinely naturally reduce your risk of catching infections!

However, science has focused on the effects of acetic acid in cleansing rather than the potential benefits of consuming it.

In Victorian times it was commonly used as a beauty aid. Applied to the final rinse of your hair to increase shine. Applied to spots. Applied to the face as a kind of “toner”. It was also consumed to maintain a pale complexion.

However, remember the Victorians also consumed Arsenic in small quantities to keep a pale complexion!

Was it’s common use in beauty treatments due to the fact it was commonly used to clean things so it was accessible to everyone? Possibly. But the science backs some of the claims…

Vinegar was used for wound cleaning by Hippocrates over two thousand years ago. And it’s likely been used widely in that capacity. We still use alcohol to kill bacteria and reduce the risk of infection. It would follow that using it on spots may well be beneficial.

Vinegar was also (and still is) used as a food preservative. Now we can scientifically prove it can do more – studies show that it inhibits the growth of “bad bacteria” (like E Coli) in the food.

Some drink vinegar when on holiday abroad, before meals to “protect” from food poisoning. Does that really work? We don’t know. But it does make a kind of sense!

3. ACV may lower blood sugar spikes.

This is the most successful scientifically tested application of vinegar to date and especially pertinent to patients with type 2 diabetes.

Type 2 diabetes is identified by elevated blood sugar, either due to insulin resistance or an inability to produce insulin.

We know that in diabetes, diet can manage symptoms and sometimes heal the body – essentially reversing the condition. ACV can’t do that…but it may be helpful.

Indiginous populations have extremely high rates of diabetes from consumption of refined carbohydrates (not just sugar) than those who’ve been eating it longer. We haven’t evolved to tolerate the Western diet. We consider Type 2 Diabetes an age related condition. In fact it’s unheard of in places where the main diet is a plant based vegan diet…high in veggies, low in refined carbs.

Diabetes has a number of complications that can present. Excepting coma and death! Hypertension, nerve pain and blindness. It is a major cause of disability and the reduction of the health span of a person, even ignoring the reduction in lifespan.

That humble ACV may help as a preventative or treatment that has NO SIDE EFFECTS is amazing. And certainly worth trying!

If you are diabetic, of course, run it by your GP before you make changes. Some modern medicines preclude an increase in consumption of vinegar or reduction in the consumption or sugars without supervision…so err on the side of caution.

Blood sugar spikes can also be a problem in people who don’t have diabetes. These fluctuations are known to affect mood, can cause insomnia and even increase seizure risk in epilepsy. Blood sugar fluctuations are also a cause of aging and a precursor to many chronic diseases we have come to associate with age.

Vinegar improves insulin sensitivity during a high-carb meal (in some tests by up to 34%), which significantly lowers blood sugar levels and our response to insulin.

Insulin is the hormone we need for our body to make use of the food we eat. The body literally starves if we don’t make it and similarly the body goes hungry if our body becomes resistant to insulin.

4. Some studies have shown that ACV facilitates weightloss.

Given the benefits outlined in number 3, the mechanism for this may be better understood.

Several studies suggest that vinegar can increase your sense of fullness, helping you eat fewer calories.

In studies, consuming vinegar once a day with a high-carb meal increased feelings of fullness and people ate 200-275 fewer calories for the rest of the day. In context, eating 200 calories less each day in a year equates to about 20lbs in weight!

5. ACV has beneficial effects on the heart.

Cardiovascular disease (heart disease and stroke) is currently the world’s biggest cause of death and disability.

Studies showed that ACV can reduce both cholesterol and triglyceride levels. It may also contain the antioxidant which has been shown to protect bad cholesterol particles from becoming oxidised. As I said…the research is lacking. It proves some things…and theorises others. It definitely needs more investigation!

Heart health is a essential for a healthy complexion and it may be where this folk medicine idea originated. The heart when healthy carries oxygen around the body. If it isn’t doing that properly all kinds of problems show up before the heart attack. Erectile dysfunction. Atrophied brain. Back ache due to nerve pain. All part of the same disease.

Scientifically ACV reduced contributory factors to heart disease. As well as reducing blood pressure. That implicates it in potential benefits for many conditions that arise from heart disease…conditions that may show up long before you know you have heart disease.

6. Perhaps the most hyped benefit of ACV is that it protect against the uncontrolled growth of cells which is the cause of cancer.

There are some outlandish claims online about the anti-cancer effects of ACV. Diet and exercise are always going to trump any treatment in the prevention and treatment of MOST cancers. Most cancers are related to lifestyle to some extent. But not all.

Some studies have shown ACV may kill cancer cells and shrink tumours. But more research needs to be done before anyone can claim it is a CURE. The same goes for Essiac Tea & Cannabis Oil.

As with all the studies showing the benefits, the ACV ones are too limited at the moment to be genuinely conclusive. And not all tumours respond to the same treatments. Some vanish on a vegan diet for example. Some don’t. We don’t actually know how many cancers spontaneously heal without intervention. We know some do though!

The main cause of cancer development is damage to the DNA which can be exacerbated by a number of lifestyle choices. So if you want to reduce your cancer risk, I would recommend looking at your diet and exercise programme before you decide to rely on vinegar! But with the health benefits it indicates in studies, it’s a bonus if it does have any anti carcinogenic properties.

In Summary…

From the limited evidence & few studies, I stand by my own anecdotal assertion that ACV may be useful in health maintenance, Anti-Aging and disease prevention. It is made an excellent option for some self testing because it tastes great and doesn’t have side effects!

Xxx

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Energy Healing & Reiki for Stress Management | Boosting Health | Immune System | Chakra Balance | Harmony

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Usui Reiki is one of the most popular courses I teach through Mayastar Academy Online Natural Healing & Spiritual Development Courses. It was the first course I began teaching 12 years ago when Mayastar was established and because whenever energy healing is mentioned with regard to its effectiveness (assisting cancer patients or for pain relief), it remains the most “well known” of the systems I teach. It’s probably the one that’s most tested and some medical health practices will refer people for Reiki Healing despite it being considered a bit “new age”. Similar prejudices come up as a reaction against natural healing practices – Ayurveda, Homeopathy, Acupuncture, Reflexology for example.

The big difference with Reiki is that it’s accessible and safe for anyone to learn and use. I wouldn’t recommend anyone start trying acupuncture without significant training and experience. But energy healing systems like Reiki provide a structured and specific practice that is not invasive and can be easily taught.

The founder of Usui Reiki included the structured forms of hand position sequences, meditation techniques, symbols and methods for sending healing distantly as well as on the breath. It is a versatile system but it’s structure makes it uniquely useful for beginners because it helps to build confidence in energy work as you go. So your intuition develops without your conscious mind being unoccupied and restrictive.

People learn energy healing for all kinds of reasons. Some wish to learn to provide healing to others; perhaps to pets or family members. Some are looking for ways to develop their spiritual senses and find Reiki an excellent way to do this.

But increasingly, I teach students that are looking at alternative or complimentary therapies to improve their health. Balance their energy to resolve health problems or assist with conventional treatments they are already using.

One of the most significant implications for ill health is stress. We are six times more likely to develop schizophrenia if we live in a city than if we don’t. Modern life has its benefits but it comes with increases in stress experienced by doing things that have never been natural for people to do.

Another example is the blue light from backlit screens on our computers, games, phones and televisions can interrupt our production of melatonin. The hormone that makes us feel sleepy and allows us to sleep. Yet, many have televisions and computers in their bedrooms and use them to “wind down”. Over time we don’t really know how much additional stress to the system could accumulate through this change in sleep quality. But the fact is if we don’t properly our bodies can’t repair properly.

If we have too little sleep on a regular basis there are implications for our health on many levels. Ultimately, if you get less than six hours of sleep in one go regularly, your life expency is reduced. Your risk of heart problems, cognitive problems and problems with immine immune function are increased.

These kinds of stress are often completely ignored. We know that a stressful job or relationship can make us ill. We know what stress feels like. We know that sometimes natural life events may cause us stress and when these happen we tend to try to take care of ourselves – death, changing career, moving home – and many other big changes we will all face at one time or another, will cause stress that we need effective ways to deal with.

Usui Reiki obviously isn’t the only answer. Meditation and breathing exercises are also very good. Changing eating habits to avoid stimulants or sugar can have big effect. Avoiding falling into the trap of relying on detrimental habits like drinking alcohol (which is considered by most people to be an “acceptable” way to deal with stress despite its negative effects on health), is important.

Change in life is stressful to some extent even in the most adaptable and well adjusted people. And change is constant. So the way we deal with experiences of stress needs to be something we make accessible to ourselves consciously and use regularly.

Daily exercise has been shown in clinical trials to be more effective in treating depression than many medications that are prescribed by medical professionals. That certainly doesn’t mean we shouldn’t take them! But it does mean we can make choices to help ourselves and that’s empowering.

Reiki is an excellent option for relaxation, self healing and boosting our immune function. It it useful in relieving stress and the symptoms of stress which can become chronic and debilitating.

My view is that a holistic approach is the best approach. Don’t rule out modern medicine. But do consider your diet and lifestyle. Look at the options you can take and weigh up the negative impact of some “acceptable” habits against the options that don’t come with a negative impact. What’s considered “normal” isn’t always what is natural or right.

It can be hard to break out of habits of thinking and behaviour we have been taught and which are reinforced by those around us. Sometimes being the odd one out means choosing what works for us as individuals despite our peers or negative views of individuality that are quite prevalent in some people’s lives.

If your friends think Reiki is kookie – the domain of hippies and vegans, don’t let it stop you trying it out. Lead by example. Don’t be afraid to try something new. Especially if trying something old isn’t working!

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Can a Narcissistic Mind Evolve a Conscience through Intellectualised Re-Framing of Life Experiences? | Consciousness | Narcissism | Higher Faculties | Love | Forgiveness | Judgement | Autism

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Bathtime Blogging…I am pondering a number of things at the moment. It began after my dad died…having aspergers seemed to allow me subjective and objective experience of his illness, his death, my own grief and the various ways of expressing grief that came to people around me that set me pondering…

Can a Narcissistic Mind Evolve a Conscience through Intellectualised Re-Framing of Life Experiences?

I don’t think anybody is better at life than others. All people are individual. Their potential is variable. So I don’t make observations to judge in any way, but literally as an observation. My asper brain intellectualises things and looks at the logic as if it’s a puzzle with a solution and not just a puzzle. So in articulating my considerations, I hope that they may set you pondering too!

The beginning of this train of thought was really initiated as I contemplated the different way in which I experience empathy as an Aspergirl compared to the experience of those around me. In the back of my mind was a concern that maybe I wouldn’t experience things “properly”.

When someone dies of cancer you get a warning. You take a journey with them. My dad had a very fast growing brain tumour. He lived 5 months after diagnosis. And that was WITH chemo slowing the tumour. The tumour was inoperable. It was the type that would have spread even if it could be slowed with radiotherapy and chemo. But even a non malignant brain tumour is fatal if it’s inoperable. So there was a journey of weeks for the diagnosis and then months of treatment. I am sure dad would have made the same decision about the chemo etc even if they had known it would only give him months…months instead of weeks. But even with a warning,  these things feel like they happen too quickly.

My dad had home hospice care and I saw him every day throughout. That was a good thing. I didn’t realise my mind was learning to accept the inevitable…I even wondered if my mind, specifically because of my autism, was able to accept it more easily because I couldn’t take any of it personally. And that’s where my questions began…would I experience death with my form of atypical empathy or was I at risk of being TOO rational.

I also considered perhaps my spiritual beliefs and the fact I could give healing to someone who was dying (Reiki and Violet Flame – both of which I teach through Mayastar). Did that give me a sense of being able to help someone to die peacefully, rather than react as if situation was all wrong and death was unnatural?

I continued to mull these things over. Looking at different personality types and considering their limitations, experiences and unique qualities.

I came away from this with the understanding that we all have a level of higher function (the ability to be objective and self aware), and we all have an ego. And both of these are present at different levels in different people…and they change over time. But how much can they change?

The ego doesn’t have the capacity for objectivity or self awareness. The ego really is the inner narcissist. It doesn’t develop emotionally beyond childish fears and tantrums. It demands external validation. And I think in people where one or other (subjective or objective mind) is dominant, they are “atypical”. Most people experience both to a degree and most people consciously continue to strive for a more objective understanding of their experiences as life goes on.

I think this shows up increasingly as people age. If they don’t move past their ego, they tend towards bitter. Sometimes almost paranoid. But generally they become antisocial as time goes on. In people we consider well adjusted, they balance this tendency to selfishness with an increased capacity for objective understanding – whether they pursue this consciously or it happens naturally probably depends on how balanced they were to begin with. These people seem to “mellow with age” and they are less likely to take on other people’s issues as personal or to consider life events as being “bad” or “wrong”. The exact opposite of the ego which takes everything personally.

Now, my autism may mean if anything I have a tendency to over rationalise – to the extent that some people find me kind of weird. Sometimes presenting a kind of blank slate. Often asking questions that some find intrusive. People who lie or who have a tend towards a narcissistic personality often take a dislike to people like me because we don’t provide them with the external validation or feedback they need. And we very well may ask them outright why their behaviour is as it is and they very well may not have the answers!

I don’t think you have to be autistic to run into this. Those people who persist in ego consciousness seem to “clash” with people a lot! They seem to ostracise themselves. Although I find this observation interesting, I find it hard to imagine how hard getting by in life must be if you are dependent on others to reinforce your sense of self…all the while feeling that you are entitled to that kind of attention. It’s almost like an addiction and I think the capacity of people whose ego is dominant (not to the extent of being classifiable as a narcissist but just more ego centred than the average person) must live on their nerves. Their capacity for experience of higher emotions like love; their capacity to forgive; their capacity for altruism; their capacity for feeling ok with themselves in many ways, is compromised. Their fear of not being accepted or of being judged is heightened. They may seem selfish and rude and arrogant…but scratch the surface and you find it’s all surface! The ego’s reasoned response to a question like “why do you feel a need to be rude to other people” is either going to begin “because they….” or “because I do”.

It’s led me to consider…without any answer…is it possible for a psychopath, sociopath or narcissist (all ego based personalities), to evolve beyond that selfish view point? To overcome the illusion of their own importance the ego insists upon? To develop a level of emotional maturity even without the normal capacity for empathy? Is it possible for a serial killer (as an extreme example), to feel true remorse? Genuinely and not just theoretically? (And I mean remorse…not regret!) Is it possible for extreme narcissistic personalities to learn to feel genuine remorse by reframing life experiences as an entirely intellectual process?

I really don’t know. But if you observe the reaction of people to serious life events…you can see they tend to swing between ego and higher function and find some balance. It’s normal for people to go through phases as they balance out.

I know there are people close to me who want to avenge me for things that have happened to me in the recent and distant past. They don’t think I should forgive. And sometimes I find it hard to explain…I haven’t forgiven in any real sense. Meaning, I haven’t set out to. But naturally over time have ceased to consider some things less and less important, until I naturally have “evolved” to a state of forgiveness. I think most people probably do this.

I personally can’t see the point of holding grudges against people I think are unworthy of them because I outgrew my connection to that person. They stayed as they were and I moved on. For me to blame them or be annoyed would be like being angry with a puppy for peeing on the new rug. It’s a puppy. I can’t reason with it “on a level”. And no matter how annoyed I am, it won’t make the puppy become human, apologise, clean the carpet and be like me. We can’t carry grudges or hold onto anger just because other people aren’t the same as us. Well, most of us would agree on that. The more narcissistic types probably wouldn’t. It’s very immature but the ego does think other people should be like we are otherwise any problems are their fault and they cause our problems. It sounds o absurd written down that I think evwn a narcissist would deny that train of thought. But their behaviour betrays them!

People who have caused me harm deliberately…abusive people and violent people; and one I would classify as a narcissist but could equally have a serious and untreated mood disorder. In fact the person in question claimed to have an undiagnosed mood disorder. But I think that was to justify their erratic behaviour or maybe even just to make themselves seem important! In fact their anger, compulsive lying and paranoia was classic for a narcissistic personality type and not for someone with clinical depression or bipolar disorder! They also claimed to be seeing a psychotherapist about their rage…and that was a verifiable lie. You can tell if a narcissist is lying by whether they are speaking or not!

Anyway, that is only my observation. I can’t diagnose those things and whatever their problem was, there’s nothing I can do about it and I wouldn’t be involved with someone like them. But because of their extremely strange and malicious behaviour, I do have to conclude that there’s no way I can take their issues personally; they have a problem. I can see how some people would find it hard not to take another person’s issues personally. Especially given the personal nature of some of the behaviour. So I can see that from the outside it looks so bad to other people that some feel there should be some kind of justice meted out…

I believe it is though. I don’t believe I need to be judge, jury or executioner for someone whose own personality is the bane of their existence. Karma is a component…but suffering from their own personality is also a punishment to them. They are their own worst enemies in many ways. Their lives are significantly diminished because of the way they think.

It may help that I can use magick in such situations to prevent being held back from sorting myself out by negative thoughts, intentions or actions. It’s such a common situation for the more emotionally mature that reversal spells form a very large part my ritual work for others (www.mayamagickal.net). I do consider that on a spiritual level, the destructive tendencies and negative intentions are akin to a intentional psychic attack and magick is a way to prevent you being caught up and unable to move forward. The immaturity of the ego leaves some volatile personality types with a kind of “emotional incontinence” that, I believe, causes harm and hindrance to victims of abusive relationships on an energetic level.

But after weighing up my personal experience and observations, the question remains after all my pondering: Can a narcissist learn to feel through an intellectualised process?

Perhaps my autism gives me a simplistic view and I am really not “getting it” – but it does seem to me that technically it should be possible. We all have two sides…and most people change as they become older and more experienced. Perhaps a lot of choices have to be made and perhaps we need an ideal to grow towards. So perhaps the narcissist falls at the first hurdle by not having the capacity to entertain an ideal! But, I still think technically it’s possible because we all have narcissistic qualities…and usually we do outgrow them. I’ve yet to observe a narcissist develop a conscience…but I do think technically it’s possible. Just very unlikely!

So endeth my bathtime blog of the day! Xxx

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If you really want to live…remember what you’d die for, and live for it! | Freedom | Death | Cancer | Reiki | & Love

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I love…days where my bathwater matches my swallow tattoo!

Designed by my sister and worn by all my family on T shirts & jewellery & ink by family & friends close to my dad. A united front…facing terminal cancer with him.

Despite the chemo & radiotherapy, the tumour grew so fast his symptoms progressed v quickly.

Dad had a bone cancer ten years ago; and though the brain tumour wasn’t related, dad had lived every day like it was a gift.

And I think this summer, he kind of taught us all to do the same. We all miss him…but if there’s a silver lining, facing the journey into terminal illness…it was challenging of course…painful…but we will all remember the good stuff.

In the words of Mike Skinner of The Streets “You left me behind to remind me of you” ❤

He slipped into a coma and died peacefully at home and we were there with him to care for him right to the end. I spent the summer dancing in his garden when he was getting weaker…so we had quite a laugh (including our obligatory 'swallow spotting'…something me and dad always did).

If you really want to live…remember what you'd die for, and live for it!

The swallow tatt is has been adopted by a lot of cancer patients – lifer patients like dad as well as survivors as a symbol of freedom…we all have our demons and being able to live without fear of them is when we truly know what freedom is.

I have a number of students that face similar situations…and they learn Reiki from me. "Healing" someone who is dying? Yes. It's entirely appropriate. Reiki provides healing on many levels and may help with symptoms and mood. Death is a natural process…but it's one we tend to detach from these days. Considering it something that happens anonymously in a clinical setting and something that doesn't involve us. But once it was something we would have experienced personally at a younger age and caring for someone you love right to the end is natural. You don't stop washing them or making them comfortable because you think "this one's a goner". No…you administrator care and support right to the end because you love them way beyond life! And sharing Reiki or healing with someone who is dying…even in those last days…it's a natural thing to do ❤

(Reiki information on www.mayastar.net/reikicourses.htm plus articles on energy healing in general)

❤ Anna Louise May (Maya) | Mystic, Muse & Artist

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