Maha #Kali #Exorcism #Tantric #Shamanism Ritual – what an exorcism #Spell is for outside of #Hollywood movies. Clearing negative energy, initiating positive change, moving forward, healing yourself and your life. Also psychic protection, clearing emotional debris…so many applications – #Exorcisms are a fantastic option for new beginnings too!
Today in a #picsart collage. Reading on my #barlowtyrie #sunlounger in a #sunny #garden. My #Chihuahua pals with me #Gatsby soundtrack. #Reading. #henna #redhead #preraphaelite style (teal floor length cotton skirt, deep blue tunic and a rust colour baggy top for when it cools down). #nomakeup #nomakeupselfie #lushcosmetics tinted lip balm #cremedelamer complexion. #pandora #charmbracelet. #channeling no 19. Big #sunglasses & many bottles of #evian #springwater. Oh…cat too hot and she’s in the outdoor kennel till it cools down.
Toffee has fitted in really well.
In the colder weather I need to bring my other outdoorsy cat in for a whole (nuisance neighbour feeds “strays” so outdoor cats stop coming home, foxes come round more and so do all kinds of vermin – she’s been told before not to feed my cat but public nuisance really. He has had been ill 3 times on whatever she feeds him but easier to bring him in during the colder weather and get him acclimatised again).
I may get another chi then too. Both my cats and dogs live with each other and play together…except Charlie is ten now and Toffee and the cats play more so another chi would make the pack complete…that’s the plan.
Sorting out crazy nuisance people who insist on feeding other people’s cats is a huge problem if you Google it. It means outdoor cats often render themselves stray…and the answer is to make your cat an indoor one. No one can stop them doing it. Well…surely, leaving food outside in a public place is littering? Apparently a cat of mine that went missing…presumed dead…over ten years ago, my dad found while looking for Fledge last year. She had been feeding him and he had lived as a stray that whole time! Apparently that’s not theft though).
Will find some way to sort that out…but for now, reading and chilling…
It’s totally #hippie heaven ♡
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20″ probably laced to 22″ at that time. The floating ribs curl in more but they are only attached to the back and are cartilage so they give you a bit of back ache as they curl in. Then the ribs above those slightly bend down and as they grow (bone cells are always replacing) they grow into the new shape but it takes longer and the ache moves from your back to the sternum.
When people say like corsets or wear corsets they generally don’t know anything at all about corsetry. Obviously the rib contouring takes longer if you carry more “fluff”.
And people who voice concerns about reduction in lung capacity…if there is some it’s gradual and you body adapts so you breathe higher in the chest – that doesn’t do any harm. Fat or smoking reduce lung capacity too…people seem to forget that!
If you are tight lacing for body modification purposes, always make sure you corset after you work out…your muscles are attached to your ribs and they will become smaller and denser if you corset after exercise. I didn’t know that and my ribs used to literally pop in and out when I danced! (I am lucky my natural waist 24″ is small).
Oh! Anyone who wants to train, buy a corset made to measure. You can’t seriously train off the rack!
♡♡♡ Think I’ll blog that…it took me years to train to 20″….it’s something you can only do properly if you want to achieve that. I can close on 18″ with a couple of samples I have but that’s more an extreme line than the Victorian line I like. The extreme curvy line that creates an hourglass is easy to wear. It’s like wearing a tight belt! Doesn’t suit my Victorian style any more than off the rack ones do…I haven’t ever found an off the rack that isn’t an instrument of torture…I would advise people to save up for one REAL corset and don’t waste money on off the rack.
22 Years ago, I was raped by my long term partner.
I was young and this had seemed to come out of the blue. He became physically, mentally and emotionally abusive after this…he also had 4 affairs that I know of during the 9 years total we were together.
Looking back, I regret not going to the police. And I regret not telling anyone or talking to anyone about it. If anyone finds themselves in a similar situation, please don’t deal with it by hiding it. They are the one at fault; and no matter how twisted they are and how manipulative they are (and they usually are)…managing to make sure you feel ashamed for something they should feel ashamed of…no matter how difficult it is, trust me when I say, spending your life covering for an abusive relationship or hiding an assault from people, means the attacker continues to do damage to you psychologically, long after the event is over.
Considering courage in the context of a magickal philosophy made me want to make a video about how courage isn’t about not being scared…it’s about how you handle being scared. It’s about learning to trust yourself to cope with fear and have faith in your own potential abilities to turn it around. Maybe even use it to your advantage in some way.
In that way, I can look back and say 22 years ago something really bad happened to me…but ultimately, it increased my potential to overcome fear, pain, suffering…and on some level, life’s challenges are those things that create the most powerful opportunities for us to prove ourselves. My self confidence and self esteem might not be what they are today had some of these things not happened in my past. They did force me to step up to mark in a way that may not have happened any other way. Perhaps ultimately, they made me a better person; a stronger person. And perhaps ultimately, making this video might help others too. I hope so.
They say that what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger. I would encourage that. Don’t let what doesn’t kill you make you angry, vengeful, bitter or afraid. In the strangest way, we have no control over what happens to us, but we have control over how we deal with it. See yourself as an empowered person and challenges can turn to opportunities.
Of course it’s not a simple thing; it took a lot of hard work. But do you really want to let the abusers, bullies, rapists of the world win you over to their way of seeing yourself as a victim?
In considering an example it was the only situation I could think of where I was actually scared for my life…and it took me a long time to find the courage to end the relationship. I’m not proud of that. And I’m sure I’m not the only one. But anyone who has been in an abusive relationship or subject to a sexual assault…remember one thing – they are actually BREAKING THE LAW – it’s not a moral issue, it’s nothing to do with what you were wearing either. And there is a legal system that sometimes fails…but sometimes works. That is the system that rapists should face so you don’t have to allow their actions define you later. Again, this isn’t an easy thing at all. But my experience is…don’t harbor criminals.
I feel very strongly about it. It is perhaps my biggest regret not calling the police when it happened…because living with the secret was like dealing with something that happened to me (not something I did), over and over again. And it took a lot to move forward. I think it always would have – but I think I would have felt better about myself, the situation, the world, if I hadn’t kept the secrets of someone like that.
So I really intensely want to tell other victims of assault within or outside of relationships…PLEASE don’t suffer alone.
If you don’t know where to begin and seeing the police seems too difficult, tell a friend and have them phone the police. See your GP as an emergency and have them phone the police. Do whatever you can do. But don’t keep it to yourself.
Do anything you can to avoid falling into despair. Study psychotherapy…see a therapist…a counsellor…whatever help you can find, find it.
I feel like, worse than the event itself for me, were the 4 years of not even thinking to myself in words what kind of relationship I was in. I didn’t even tell myself. Let alone anyone else. That was a lot to deal with. It had a lot of consequences that dealing with it a different way wouldn’t have had.
Also remember…22 years later, things will look very different. I hadn’t lived 22 years when it actually happened…but looking back, I am a very different person now. It’s impossible to say what might ever happen to you in life…but I know for absolute certain, I would have been waiting at the police station door when it opened the next morning if it happened now.
We’re not defined by what other people do to us. Sometimes it feels like we are. But we’re not. And I dedicate my life to teaching courses that empower people (in various ways)…something I feel extremely inspired to do but something I couldn’t have imagined doing 22 years ago.
Time doesn’t heal…it’s what you do with the time that decides whether it heals…so if you can learn anything from my mistakes and my situation, please, please do. If I can make a difference to one person…save them the 4 year limbo…I’d donate a kidney to do it. So making this video, not my favourite subject, but the least I can do❤
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Perfect weather for working in the garden. #barlowtyrie #sunlounger. Fledge sitting on the table with us. #Chihuahua honeys snuggling into my blanket. Pouring with rain but we’re cosy and dry under the veranda.
Listening to #KateRusby at the moment and #daisyrock on standby for when I’ve finished working…or a book…or some sketching…depending when my bf finishes work I may work here for a couple of hours yet🙂 Writing a new blog, writing channelled information from my #spiritguide down…he talks in images sometimes so I like to write it up in a more understable way. And reading the #happinessproject book.
Heavenly fresh rain grassy smell mixed with dog smell and a bit of #chanel no 19…so homely and cosy.
Big love #hippies and #hipsters!
We tend to think of healing as a single level but relaxation, the reduction of stress, assistance in sleep and pain management can be helpful in those to are about to make the transition.
It also provides a powerful way to connect – and creates a relaxed environment in which to talk about things the dying person might feel unable to with others or in more clinical settings. That’s not to say it won’t be challenging! But it can be an opportunity to share love as a family that is unique to our regular experiences.
My dad died of cancer last year. An inoperable brain tumour; and being able to provide him with the benefits of Reiki and my counselling/psychoanalysis experience…and natural forms of treatment, was intensely beneficial for us both. Being able to offer support and guidance in a situation that seems otherwise may seem bleak is an opportunity to reclaim the sacred aspects of this unique time. An opportunity beneficial (potentially) to all involved.
Natural Healing techniques can help relieve symptoms; we may benefit from healing on a spiritual and emotional level. Knowing you’re terminally ill can make people depressed – it’s rather a monumental time and rather monumental news. And it’s not unusual to experience shock and the stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining), when we hear the word “terminal”. But the shock part passes and we have to find a way to live with death. Something our life experience rarely prepares us for; it can make people feel unable to discuss the nitty gritty too – how death happens biologically. What to expect. What is a death rattle? Why do people who are dying usually go into a coma?
We can find these things out. And understanding the physical process can be reassuring. But creating an environment in which people feel they can connect and share in what is a very intimate experience…that’s the part no one teaches us! And I believe Reiki and sharing energy healing can be an excellent starting point for opening up and sharing our experiences and ideas together.
Death is a natural part of our lives – but we do tend to think of it as something that happens in a clinical setting with drips and medical staff…and ends with an anonymous phone call from a random doctor at 3am. We’ve stopped seeing it as being part of the cycle of life – and started to see aging and mortality as negative and to be avoided at all costs!
We are very distanced from our mortality in the modern world and this is emphasised in many ways by modern medicine…and probably also the fact many of us aren’t religious these days; also there is a way that even in some religions death is considered an inappropriate topic for discussion – or it’s discussed only in coded terms. The afterlife being focused on rather than death itself and the biological process of death.
Something important is lost in this I feel. Think back 100 or 150 years, people were used to seeing death first hand from an early age. Their family members usually died at home and often with the same treatments as end of life care provided now…counsellors instead of priests – but with morphine to control symptoms of the final days and hours.
If we saw this in our homes from a young age, we would undoubtedly understand death in a very different way. And while we consider such close encounters with the dying potentially depressing (tragic, unbelievable, despair inspiring) when they happen in the real world today, they don’t have to be. This modern perspective is rather new and our past understanding of the process can teach us a lot.
Death can be seen as part of a natural transition. The physical death of the body here marking its rebirth into the next world. A sacred experience when we see it from this perspective and allow ourselves to overcome our fears and resistance and to see…it may be messy or strange to us…so is the birth of babies! But we don’t have a problem seeing that as sacred. Death comes to all and yet we can go through most of our lives trying to remain “uninvolved”. I feel this is not only to our detriment but also to the detriment of those who are dying. And one day, that will apply to each of us.
Don’t be depressed…you will die one day; you will live on many others!
My dad received home hospice care during his transition and it opened my eyes in many ways to the very personal experience the dying person has. And how modern attitudes can be isolating and prevent a natural transition being experienced in a natural way by everyone involved.
There are some great books (especially those by Felicity Warner) about Soul Midwifery. And the Pagan Book of Living and Dying by Starhawk that offer some practical and philosophical ideas that can draw people together if things are experienced openly and this final journey considered something we take together and acknowledge for the sacred time it is.
I’m all for using Reiki as a complimentary therapy to assist in achieving a good/peaceful passing.
As I said, not all healing takes place on a physical level. The mental, spiritual and emotional benefits can be incredibly powerful for anyone involved – the person who is dying, the family and friends – Energy Healing can provide a way to share in the journey that can be powerfully healing for everyone.
XX ALM (Mayastar)